“The misconception is that borderlines are nonfunctioning people, but borderlines tend to be very smart, intellectual people.A lot of the time they’re actually very high-functioning.” As one would imagine, it’s pretty scary to disclose a mental illness to your partner, no matter what stage of the relationship you’re in; it's not unreasonable to be afraid to scare a partner away. Imagine your partner’s friends warning them to steer clear of you.On top of this, imagine experiencing exhausting mood swings and an unavoidable fear of being abandoned. Relationships require work, compromise, communication, empathy, and understanding.Things become even more complicated if you are dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Perhaps the most well-known example of BPD is Winona Ryder’s character Susanna Kaysen in a film which follows the real-life experience (it's based on the book written by Kaysen) of young women in a mental hospital in the '60s.
While the beginnings of a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder might take you to the greatest euphoric heights imaginable, it can also take you to the lowest lows.
Knowing what to look for can help you to better maintain a relationship with someone with BPD.
So I would advise anyone dating a borderline to get involved in their DBT work, their counseling sessions, and learn from the experts.” When it comes to dating with BPD, it is possible to make it work, and it can be extremely rewarding for both parties involved.
Having a mental illness doesn’t make someone less lovable.