Children of divorce dating parents
For years, many prominent researchers contended that divorce was passed from generation to generation as though it was a family heirloom or freckles.
Until her 2012 death, psychologist Judith Wallerstein, aka “ found that children of divorce lacked relationship coping skills which, coupled with a deep-seated belief that relationships are inherently impermanent, makes their marriages critically vulnerable to divorce.
I want to know where my shoes are when I wake up in the morning.’”Eric, a father of one living in Brooklyn, wasn’t surprised when his parents divorced while he was in college.
“They’d always been always pretty argumentative and stuff like that,” he said.
And kids can feel the fragility in a relationship, even if they couldn’t tell what it is they’re feeling.
So, we try to just make sure that if she sees us fight, she also sees us make up.”When Jen’s parents divorced when she was seven, the present day mom of two processed the practical implications of the split first.
America’s divorce rate did a surprising thing over the last decade: it fell.
More surprising was that the fall was led by millennials, a generation that should, according to a preponderance of social science data, be extra prone to divorce.
“Even if it means I must concede more than I think I should.
It’s hard to deny that parents’ divorce impacts their children’s views on and behavior in their marriages.
But if millennials have, as a generation, built their marriages with safeguards against divorce, the way kids process parental divorces is perhaps more complex than previously understood.
Diamond’s broad categories of divorce reactions contain almost infinite variations. People may simultaneously hurt and learn from their parents’ breakup — humans are all works in progress, after all.
That complexity was present in the accounts of the millennial and Gen X children of divorce interviewed for this story.