Dating ready to move on
After the stress of going through a divorce, it can be difficult to think about dating again.Everyone has their own timeline for when they might want to get out there.
They’d be taking their cues from my words and actions, opening up to me, and — if all went well — believing in a future with me that only existed if I was truly ready. For nearly 20 years, I hadn’t gone on a single romantic date with anyone other than my wife, and now I was seeing someone else.So I’ll allow myself to delight in the discovery of a great new person and try as hard as I can to keep the regrets and past mistakes I can’t control from spoiling that.And if after all of that my dating now is judged “inappropriate,” well, I’ll just have to politely disagree.Over time, the waves would be smaller and further apart, then a new droplet would fall and start the process all over again — a draining faucet trickling empty. About a year after her death, I felt ready to start looking for another partner.When you lose someone, there’s a feeling of being under a microscope, your every move examined by friends, family, coworkers, and connections on social media. Like grief, the timeframe for each individual’s readiness is variable. Two things determined my own readiness to date: I’d accepted the loss and was interested in sharing more than just a bed with a woman.