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She says, “I asked myself, ‘Will I be willing to submit even if his leadership is not as mature as I would like?
'” Leah also worried she might not always be able to meet Travis’ physical needs and wondered if he might one day regret marrying an “old woman” who couldn’t keep up with all of his activities.
While I don’t think it’s important to adhere to an arbitrary formula when considering age in a potential relationship (interestingly, when I met Kevin our age difference was exactly this ratio), I think it can be a good rule of thumb to help you consider if your relationship is appropriate.
(A 37 year old dating a 25 year old is different from a 30 year old dating an 18 year old.) I often tell people that Kevin and I met at the perfect time.
After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!
And while the same life stage can seem to erase an age difference, Willy Wooten, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been counseling for over 30 years, encourages couples to think ahead.
“It feels like it wasn’t that long ago.” When Leah, a national of Singapore, first got to know Travis, who was 10 years her junior, she was attracted to him, but “I tried to tell myself it wouldn’t work because of the age difference.
I fought those affections like crazy.” But as an undeniable connection formed, Leah finally made a bold request: “I told the Lord, unless I hear Travis say, ‘The Lord has laid it on my heart that you are to be my wife,’ I will not move forward.” The night before the two gave a group presentation together, they met to pray.
Also consider how you get along with the person’s friends, because these people will also be part of your life.
Johanna said she found it a bit awkward to connect with her boyfriend, Paul’s, friends, even though he was only three years younger. I felt removed from their age and current life stage,” she says.